“See what he did”
“Ask her for advice”
“He did that”
“She achieved this”
Isn’t this all we hear when we are down.No matter how messed up someone’s own life is,they just don’t leave an opportunity to take a dig at you when you are down.Acting as if their “advice” is going to help you,when all it does in reality is make you more conscious,more disconcerted,even more annoyed and indignant.As if the barrage of things going against you weren’t enough,you now also have to go through their little futile talks every time you are near them.And this results in you going inside that shell of yours trying to dodge the situations somehow.
It just amazes me how boorish people can get.Even your closed ones.I mean,we humans differ from all other animals in the fact that we can actually feel what others are going through even when we ourselves haven’t experienced it.Empathy…isn’t that what we are all about?What separates us.Makes us unique.
We don’t need someone to point their predicaments to us.Its just all through the mind.The posture,the tone,the eyes,the body language of others help us detect that.Its just psychic.And it shocks me to find that people either have lost it or have stopped using that.
I for one,and in no way am I bragging,can proudly say that I have this quality of understanding what the people around me are going through.Of being supportive.And I guess this is why it torments me even more when I don’t get that back in return.Especially when it comes from the people who have known me the most.Who know that eventually things will turn out well for me.
I accept that maybe I am being a bit cynical here but that’s just the truth and I had to say this.If you love someone,then support him/her when they are down and if you can’t do that then at least don’t try to help them with your “expert” opinions unless asked for.Because these little opinions of yours sure as hell aren’t going to help them get any better either.