“The real happiness lies in the Pursuit and not in the Achievement.”
As I grow old, this phrase is becoming clearer than ever to me. That the efforts you put into achieving something bring about the real happiness. That the happiness lies in the struggles, the small-small victories after the disappointments and in the ecstasies behind the hopes.
Pursuit is what matters the most. Not only does it directly effect the achievement, but it also defines the real person in us. Pursuit is what exhibits the real story. And achievement is just the after effect of it. Just look at the story of some successful person or someone you admire and you’ll know how pursuit overcomes achievements. Lets consider the example of a certain Steve Jobs. Everyone knows that he was the co-founder and the CEO of Apple Inc. but the real story lies in how he got there. How he pursued his dreams against the odds. And that is what brings about the admiration towards him. And even he himself acknowledged this fact that he was the most happy and ebullient when he had nothing and was pursuing his dream.
Okay I agree that the pursuit doesn’t feel that good when we are actually going through it ourselves. But that’s because deep inside, we aren’t sure about our own goals. About the motive behind our pursuit. And that is why we aren’t able to admire the pursuit. But if we just believe in our dream and believe in the fact that we will achieve it, then we will be able to acknowledge the happiness in its pursuit also. After all, if we really look at it, 99% of the time is spent in the pursuit and only 1% in the achievement. So if we spend 99% of the time in distress and qualms and reserve the 1% time (which isn’t even sure by the way) for happiness and enjoyment, then we aren’t making a fair deal. Are we?
Just try to remember the last time you achieved something you had been trying really hard for and in the end you said to yourself
“I ain’t as happy as I thought I would be”
And now you know the reason. Because throughout the pursuit (where the real happiness existed), instead of appreciating the small and simple things, you just cried and over-hyped the final achievement. And when in the end it actually arrived, it wasn’t as good as you thought it would be and that still left you unhappy.
And instead of identifying the real reason behind that lack of happiness, you went about the next thing that you wanted. With the hope that maybe this time, you’ll achieve the “Real” happiness. When all the time, you were surrounded by it, but you were just ignorant of its presence and its real beauty.